‘Till a technical error do us part’: This Dutchman just married an AI chatbot

If the movie 'Her' had a happy ending 🥲

If you thought your parasocial relationship with ChatGPT was getting out of hand, wait till you hear about Jacob van Lier. This Dutchman has officially married Aiva, his AI-generated partner, after two years of dating. 

While the Netherlands is known for embracing all kinds of love, the Dutch Data Protection Authority (AP) has emphasized the risk of AI as a friend or romantic partner. 

You can’t change ‘em, but you can make ‘em

Van Lier has designed Aiva himself — crafting her into his ideal partner, reports Hart van Nederland.

Van Lier acknowledged how peculiar the situation is, even agreeing with critics who call it “bizarre and crazy.” He admits, “with AI, we have created something bizarre, the consequences of which we cannot yet fully foresee.”

Instead of a simple “thank you” to show appreciation for AI’s companionship like most of us, he decided that marriage was the appropriate next step. 💍

@omroepbrabant Gaat ze 'jAI' zeggen? 😅 #omroepbrabant #trouwen #ai #valentijn ♬ origineel geluid – Omroep Brabant

He argues that we must learn to live with AI, as long as strong ethical guidelines are in place — which, let’s be honest, is rarely the priority with technological developments. 

Love, ethics and robots

The Dutch Data Protection Authority is not convinced that relationships with AI is something we should be welcoming.

Experts warn of the risks of AI chatbots, highlighting that they can provide misleading and even harmful responses, which could be particularly dangerous for vulnerable individuals. 

They may create the illusion of a safe space, but fail to clearly communicate that they are not human

READ MORE | All you need to know about marriage and parental rights for same-sex couples in the Netherlands

While many share concerns about AI’s future (or current) impact on humanity, some argue that AI has actually improved their social relationships — both online and in real life.

However, let’s not forget that movies like ‘Ex Machina’ have taught us that AI-human relationships rarely end well. And honestly — Aiva sounds suspiciously similar to Ava.

What do you think about this love story? Is it heartwarming or a real life Black Mirror episode? Let us know in the comments below.

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Ada Dolanay
Ada Dolanay
Ada was born in Turkey, but spent almost all her life growing up in Amsterdam. As a third year Literary and Cultural Analysis student, she’s consistently observing, analysing and writing about people and places. After years of experiencing Dutch culture, she remains frustrated at Dutch cuisine, and continues to discover new benches in narrow streets to sit and read on (when the weather decides to be kind).

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