23 tips to beat expat loneliness this holiday season

You don't need others to be merry 🎅

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As we inch closer to the holidays, spending time with loved ones is everyone’s top priority. However, if you’re an international in the Netherlands who isn’t going home for the holidays, this season can be excruciatingly lonely.

So how can internationals in the Netherlands find their holiday cheer this year?

If you’re one of the many internationals spending the holidays in the Netherlands, we feel you — because we are you! Here are 23 things you can do to beat loneliness and help boost your holiday spirits this year. 👇

1. See the city lights

Dutch cities come alive at Christmas time, and strolling through fairy lights is sure to add a sparkle to your step.

Even better? Many cities host fabulous light festivals, which are all but guaranteed to dispel some of those winter blues.

2. Get in the festive spirit

Turn on some of your favourite festive tunes, decorate your flat or house, and have some hot Chocomel while you do.

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3. Have an ‘orphan’ Christmas

Know any other internationals in the same boat? Invite them over for a small and intimate holiday gathering!

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Even if you can’t spend time with your family, you can always invite your friends. Image: Pexels

4. Have some oliebollen

Stop by a street cart and get some warm oliebollen to-go. This delicious Dutch doughnut is a seasonal speciality.

5. Bring home to the Netherlands

Take a trip down memory lane with some of your favourite traditions back home.

From the US? Maybe string popcorn. Danish? Go for a solo dance around the Christmas tree! From Japan? Go ahead and order some KFC.

6. Have a gourmetten party

Indulge in enough meat, sauce, and wine to hold you over till next year. (Warning: not for the faint of heart.)

7. Embark on a baking adventure

Are there any traditional Dutch recipes you’ve been itching to try out? Perhaps, an appelflap or two?

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You stay busy and get a delicious treat. Win-win! Image: Depositphotos

There’s no better time than the winter holidays to try out some seasonal recipes. As a bonus, your whole house might end up smelling of speculaas. Lekker!

8. Get crafty

Can’t find the perfect seasonal decor at your local HEMA? Go for DIY Christmas trees and ornaments this year, instead.

You can even rope your friends and flatmates in for some hands-on merry-making.

9. Host a virtual secret Santa

If you can’t be there in person to celebrate with your nearest and dearest, you can organise a secret Santa with a Zoom reveal party. Order gifts online in the recipient’s country if you’re running out of time.

READ MORE | Here are our favourite gift ideas for Christmas in the Netherlands in 2026

PS: If you’re planning a virtual Secret Santa gift exchange, online generators are great at randomising lists of names.

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10. Practice your Dutch poetry

Coin your first gedicht (even if Sinterklaas has already passed). Impress your Dutch friends by writing one of these unique holiday poems and take part in an important Dutch tradition!

11. Prepare a deluxe dinner

Cook up a Christmas feast and invite a few friends to enjoy. 

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A small Christmas dinner is the perfect way to beat expat loneliness. Image: Pexels

12. Send snail mail

Make greeting cards by hand and catch up on some old-fashioned correspondence.

13. Get guttural

Work on your Dutch by singing along with some classic Dutch Christmas tunes

14. Hang biscuits

Decorate your Christmas tree with some traditional kerstkransjes (circular cookies) — or just eat them straight out of the pack.

Alternatively, who needs family when you have pepernoten, right? 

15. Give

Time, money, coats, blankets — if you have some to spare, give them to those in need.

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Your local ‘kringloopwinkel’ will be happy. Image: Depositphotos

16. Look ridiculous

Challenge your colleagues or friends to an ugly sweater competition.

17. Design a family photo

Use Photoshop and some recent individual portraits to make your most awkward family photo yet. 

18. Make glühwein

Mull your own wine, because it’s honestly easier than it sounds. Geen stress if you’re a glühwein newbie, because Albert Heijn has a quick and easy recipe you can follow.

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Just the thing to warm you up on a cold winter’s day! Image: Freepik

But don’t just stop there; the Dutch sometimes boil down the glühwein into a syrup for poached pears.

Yes, please!

19. Hold a pub quiz

Get competitive by taking part in an online pub quiz with friends and family from afar!

For those who can’t meet in person, online platforms like Discord are great for hosting video calls with large groups.

20. Festive cocktails with friends

Introduce your favourite holiday drink to some friends, either in person or online, and get those bartender skills rolling!

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Cheers to the holidays! Image: Dreamstime

21. Watch Christmas movies

Watch a Christmas movie from your childhood. Or, try out a classic Dutch film this year. While they might not be very festive, they’re a great way to get to know Dutch culture.

Not into films? You can also sign up for a video streaming site, and get all your seasonal goodness in a longer format.

22. Do it twice

Don’t forget about the second Christmas! On December 26, you can do it all over again… just like the Dutch do!

23. Send a care package

Put together a package with your favourite Dutch treats and send it back home to your dear ones.


There’s no way around it — the holidays are tough when you can’t go home and celebrate with your loved ones. But remember, you’re not alone; we’re all here to beat loneliness this holiday. Proost!

We want to hear from you! How do you plan to spend the holidays this year? Have any hot tips to add to the list?

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Brin Andrews
Brin Andrewshttp://brinandrews.com
Brin is an avid ice cream eater from the US, calling Amsterdam home since early 2019. As a lover of mountains, life below sea level has been a bit of an adjustment, but she manages to stay afloat with long runs, wine, and frequent travel. Incidentally, these are a few of her favourite topics to write about.

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