All you need to know about celebrating your child’s birthday in the Netherlands

We’ve all heard about the famous way the Dutch celebrate birthdays: the kringverjaardag, where everyone sits in a circle and stares at each other, talking about the weather.

It really is one of the first cultural shocks you encounter when you arrive in the Netherlands particularly when you are coming from southern, warmer latitudes, where birthdays mean FIESTA, where you party hard. Where there is always music, tons of food, and lots of people the more, the merrier.

This all changes when celebrating your birthday in the Netherlands. Having a celebration that means that as soon as you arrive you are given a slice of (often) dry store-bought apple cake and coffee or tea and make small talk, is quite the… contrast. The actual cake cutting is not even an event. It is just cut without any further ceremony.

celebrating your child's birthday in the Netherlands
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A child’s birthday in the Netherlands

Well, when it comes to children parties the differences are also quite big. For starters, there is this unwritten rule where you are supposed to invite (n+1 ) kids where n is the age the kid is turning. So for a 1st birthday, you would invite 2 kids , for a 2nd birthday 3 kids and so forth and get a nice ‘baby rompertje  as a gift 🙂

I think this takes into account that most birthdays are celebrated either at home or at organized activities like a visit to a museum or a workshop or sports activity. I think in this sense I will never fit in because a celebration -in my Mexican mind- is always meant to be huge. Anything else is a playdate.

Celebrating your child’s birthday in the Netherlands: invitations

Once the kids turn four and start school and babymaten are a thing of the past then you have to deal with inviting actual children. This is a whole process in itself. If you were to follow the rule above, in the first class/group you would be inviting five children (out of an average class of 20).

That means that you have to cherry-pick which kids are coming. I find this so harsh. Yes, there are some kids that my daughter is closer to, but to actively exclude the rest at an age where they are only starting to learn how to form friendships seems a bit rude.

I have seen the disappointment in her face when she figured out she was NOT invited to x or y’s birthday party. Or that time her “best” friend had been talking for months about his “monkey town” birthday party and then… her presence was not required.

The actual delivering of the invitations is so fun to see in its ridiculousness (oh, and here is an invitation maker if you need one). It is like witnessing some sort of sneaky illegal trade in the school patio, where the parents are trying hard to hand out the invitations without the other ones noticing.

celebrating your child's birthday in the Netherlands
Image: Amanda Steck

Celebrating your child’s birthday in the Netherlands: The child will remember the birthday

I understand that there may be space and financial constraints to having big parties and maybe a middle ground can be found but I think the Dutch in their classic practicality could maybe be exaggerating just a little bit? I remember my mom spending hours crafting little boxes which she then painted brown to look like chocolate ice pops and then filled with candy to give as favors at the end of one of my brother’s birthday parties. I remember the actual smell of the paint she used to paint them. I remember the love that went into creating them.

At our childhood birthday parties, there was always cake, a piñata and tons of kids swirling around, among school friends, neighbours and cousins.  So for anyone who would say that “the children won’t even remember”, I am here to tell them that they sure will, and even when they are too small, they will one day look at the photos and know how much care was taken into celebrating them.

Where to host a child’s birthday in the Netherlands

Anyhow, in my search for places and ideas to host birthday parties for children, here are a few of the places that meet my requisites.

If you are looking for large areas /halls, sound system and places that allow for self-catering (with the option to use a kitchen), in the Hague this comes to the adjacent areas of 2 churhes: COS rentals in the Bezuidenhout (Church of our Saviour) and St John and St Philip church. If you like a smaller place Casa Nirai in Voorburg is also a good option, and it is quite close to a local park.

If you don’t mind paying for your guest’s drinks (they don’t allow you to bring your own) then Koffie and Kind (also in the Hague) is a great option. It has an indoor and outdoor space, tons of toys, dress-up clothes…

You can also look into the playground and community centres in your area, but these need to be booked in advance and often there is a priority depending on the postcode. I am referring to places like Cantaloupe Speeltuin, petting farms like Rusthout in Voorburg or Maredijk in Leiden.

When the kids are older a museum outing might be an idea. The offer of museums for kids and teenagers is huge and varied in the Netherlands: science, trains, the human body, childrens literature, space, the middle ages, natural history, geography and folklore… there is something for all interests.

An art workshop is another good idea (Little Van Gogh in Amsterdam is a nice option). Gym parties are also a great success, for the smaller ones Little Gym can do that for you (but then again, you have to hire a whole package and the dynamic is very in and out, your party has to start and end at very clear times).

celebrating your child's birthday in the Netherlands
Celebrating your child’s birthday in the Netherlands? Maybe a piñata? Image: Amanda Steck

Oh and if you really want a piñata don’t hesitate to contact Little Wing Atelier. She can craft any character you wish and ship it right to your door.

How do you plan on celebrating your child’s birthday in the Netherlands and how are children parties celebrated in your country? Are you trying to recreate those memories and traditions with your kids? Let us know in the comments!

Feature Image: AlainAudet/Pixabay

Amanda Steck
I am a Mexican girl, born to a Swiss father and married to a Dutch guy, living in The Netherlands for 9 years (oh how time flies!). I have a background in Biology and Veterinary medicine and a passion for travel, writing, baking, reading, discovering bookshops jumping around like crazy and red dresses. I also blog at Poppies and Ice-cream.


  1. I would like to thank you,
    I am a Yemeni man live in Saudi Arabi with my family, my little daughter dream to make her birthday party in Amsterdam. we need your help to advise us what a place ( hotel or organization ) we can make the party for my daughter as you know we are a Muslim and need a place without any Wine drinks.
    if you please arrange for me this ceremony.
    her birthday will be on 26 February 2020


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