Finding love in the Netherlands: 5 ways to meet your very own ‘schatje’

Tips on how to get laid and then make a run for it… a love em and leave em a guide to finding love in the Netherlands.

No, not really. If you are that kind of person, then (hopefully someday) you will be bitch-slapped by the merciless dating love god Zeus’ half-brother, Mike.

Now let’s get right to it. When you were a kid, making new friends or finding that cute loved one with no cooties was relatively easy peasy. There was school, sports, and a bunch of extracurricular activities where you met other kids and built relationships.

Despite those good old days, in your current adult life, starting a relationship or two is not quite so lemon squeezy. Especially if you aren’t initially from the Netherlands, loneliness can creep up on you ’cause you don’t have that special loved one you go to. Plus, work or commitments can nowadays get in your way of free time.

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This would be the mood goal. Image: Depositphotos

It can also feel awkward now to ask someone you barely know, “Hey, do you want to hang out?” *queue cricket chirp*

So, my fellow readers, this article is about finding that love. Luckily, love can take shape in many forms, be it an intimate one or just a casual friendship. There’s a Dutchie out there for you (all 7ft of them)!

1. Dating apps

For the more socially inhibited ones, dating apps can help open the door to finding that special someone. Whether you are a Tinder fan or not, in today’s world, meeting new friends, or dare I say ‘baes’, apps can be an essential guide for a new adventure.

As it happens, there are now some dating apps in the Netherlands that can help you find your knight in shining armour or a dame in shining armour. Hey, it’s the 21st century! Anything is possible! 😊

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Netflix and chill! Image: Cottonbro/Pexels

First, there is a friendly dating app called, Bumble. This is a great one to find friends, dates, and even networks for career building. With Bumble, it is often more reassuring for women users since they can make the first contact with matched male or female users.

Another exciting app you can give a go is the ‘private’ dating app called Coffee Meets Bagel. It only shows you when the other person is interested in you. CMB lets you see people who have liked you, so no torturing yourself about “the one that got away.” Time effective indeed.

So, if you are interested in a new adventure, these apps can give a boost to your friend life or just smooch life.

2. Join a group

To build relationships and to find ‘true love’, you need consistency. In our younger years, this was simple. You went to school and summer camps and played outside with the other neighbourhood kids until ‘dinner is ready!’ was yelled from the window.

As grown-ups, it is unusual to have that kind of consistency outside of work. It is highly suggested to join groups that meet regularly, such as associations, networking clubs, book clubs, classes, and workshops. Meetup can help you join groups or clubs based on your interest and vicinity. Talk about practicality done right…

When you join a groud, people will show up without you having to invite them. The purpose is to practice doing things together and piece the common puzzles in your lives together. It might take several practices with someone before you feel like you made a friend.

READ MORE: This Dutch-born dating app is your best bet for finding love at first swipe

3. Go to a bar

Hey, there’s nothing wrong with doing it the old-fashioned way. 😉 The best thing to do is to drag a friend along who can play wingman (or wing woman), and then you have a backup on hand.

If you’re going it alone, this can be more difficult. If it’s in the daytime, take a book or a laptop, look like you’re clearly not hanging around to pull, then go in for the kill if the time is right. The number one thing is not appearing creepy. No. Nope. Nee.

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In a bar, it is always so much easier to meet people! Image: Depositphotos

If it’s in the evening, you got the play the game a little differently. Sitting in the corner with a book while everyone is being social and having a good time just makes you look antisocial as hell. Get talking with people and mingle, and if you find someone and if you offer to buy them a drink, they may be sold.

4. Make your intentions clear

It’s a common belief that Dutch people aren’t very good at spotting the signs. So if you do end up in a situation with a man or woman and it’s going well, make your intentions clear! (in the most non-creepy way ever, of course). So if you really want to stand out, take another Dutch trait to your advantage: directness.

Again, you’ve got to be blunt to an extent, and you don’t want to come bounding up to the new love of your life saying, “Hi, we might get married and have six children; can we just date now?” I mean, hey, it could work out, but chances are they’ll be cycling away faster than you can say, “marry….me…”

5. Check our guides to be a real pro

Hopefully, the above thoughts will help you to find that friend or loved one you can be silly with. Before you move to Facebook or probably a dating app *wink wink*, you can also find out more about moving to Amsterdam, fun videos on dating, the Netherlands and dating that can help get you going in the love world.

Or hey, you never know, the new love of your life could have been reading the exact same guides. We even have a video to teach you the know-how:

Do you have any tips or funny experiences to share with us? Let us know them in the comments below!

Editor’s Note: This article was published in July 2021, and was fully updated in September 2022 for your reading pleasure.

Feature Image:Pixabay
Armig
Armig
Tiny but mighty, Armig usually socializes if food is involved. Armig's days involve avocado sandwiches and yoga. With a bachelors in Psychology, now she is a proud communications masters student at The Hague University and is a parent to a Shepherd Mix, Cindy.

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6 COMMENTS

  1. I w0uld certainly like to find love – it’s eluded me all these years – but I am wondering if anyone knows of a small studio for me to rent…perhaps attached to a property, over a garage, etc. I am a retired American (gay) ma. I have registered at the gemeente Hilversum but need to find a new home soon. I am VERY clean, quiet and responsible…but can only afford up to €500, / month, all utilities included. Can anyone help me? Thanks!! Thomas

    • I’m Ralph Errol De Jonk I live in Sri Lankan , a descendant ofNetherlands my ancestors are from Netherlands . My wife passed away 5 years ago .I have two daughters .I am looking for a really live partner to live

      • I’m Miriam single woman seeking for a really live partner like you

        if we have the same in common i don’t mind to hear from you back

  2. I’m Ralph Errol De Jonk I live in Sri Lankan , a descendant ofNetherlands my ancestors are from Netherlands . My wife passed away 5 years ago .I have two daughters .I am looking for a really live partner to live

  3. hi I am bach, single man. 28 years. and i am an HVAC engineer. i live in leiden. i hope to find some girls sweet.

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